speak

Why is it so wrong to state an opinion? Why is it bad? Why is it scary? Why do we not do it? Is it because we fear being shot down? Is it because we are not too sure of our selves? Are we just afraid of what others might say?

In any case, when I do finally get the guts to speak about what is really on my mind, it turns out to be the ‘wrong’ thing to say. What does that even mean? “The wrong thing”. Who is the judge of right and ‘wrong’? Whatever i say, there will be a few people who agree and a few who disagree. I have come to terms with that. So why doesn’t everyone else?

Is it so difficult to agree to disagree? or must we never say anything at all, in order to avoid saying the ‘wrong thing’? That would be the perfect solution wouldn’t it? Always have surface conversations that are about nothing at all, and lead to nothing at all. That way, we avoid the trouble of stating our real opinion and speaking out about it. There is no fear, no embarrassment, and no judgment.

But how boring! I think that sometimes, controversy is exactly what we need in our lives. We need to have that jolt of ‘extraordinary’ that adds a certain charm to our lives. Or is that just me?

At the end of it all, we must always speak up about our opinion, because it’s better to have said and lost than never to have said at all.

I hope…

Thanks for listening,

sourspicy: reverting – good or bad?

PS: Some things that i’ve learned recently…

1. Stating your opinion != being rude or mean or harsh.
2. Stating your opinion, no matter how honest, genuine, and sincere can sometimes still make you feel like an idiot and a jerk, even if you said it in the nicest way you can.
3. It all depends on how the other person responds
4. And because of pt. no. 3, you are never in control and can never be
5. enjoy…